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Apr 22
22m 47s

But I Still Feel Like I'm Not Enough!

Dr. Aziz: Social Anxiety And Confidence Expert, Author and Coach
About this episode

Welcome to today’s episode of Shrink for the Shy Guy with Dr. Aziz — and today we’re going straight into one of the most common, painful, and persistent feelings that quietly runs so many lives:

👉 “I’m not enough.”

This episode is for you if you’ve ever:

  • Felt like no matter how much you do, it’s never quite enough
  • Believed you had to prove your worth through achievement or perfection
  • Avoided risks, opportunities, or putting yourself out there because of self-doubt
  • Collapsed into hopelessness or excuses just to protect yourself from trying

🎯 Dr. Aziz breaks down:

  • Why this feeling of “not enough” is a universal part of being human
  • Why trying to fix it through more doing never works (just ask Tony Robbins!)
  • How to stop confusing this feeling with reality
  • The truth about your self-worth that no accomplishment (or failure) can touch
  • A simple mindset shift to help you show up fully — even when that insecure voice gets loud

If you're ready to stop being controlled by this invisible wall of “not enough,” tune in now and take back your freedom.


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Ever catch yourself thinking, "I'm not good enough"? It's a common thought that can keep us stuck, whether we're pursuing relationships, career opportunities, or even personal growth. This persistent feeling of inadequacy can impact your confidence and stop you from taking bold actions. In this post, I'll share how to recognize this feeling, understand it, and break free from its grip, allowing you to create a life where you feel truly empowered and worthy.

Understanding the "Not Enough" Feeling

First things first: you are not alone. The feeling of “not enough” is a deeply human experience, and almost everyone grapples with it at some point in their lives. Whether it’s in relationships, career, or personal achievements, the fear of not being “enough” leads to a variety of behaviors and mindsets.

So, what makes this feeling so powerful? It's rooted in the fear of loss—loss of love, connection, respect, or even survival. If I’m not enough, then I’ll lose something important, like love or worthiness. The key here is recognizing that this fear is not reality. It’s simply an emotional response to uncertainty, and once we understand that, we can begin to take control.

Why "Proving Enough" Doesn't Work

Most of us try to fix the “not enough” feeling by doing more. We hustle, work harder, or try to accumulate external symbols of success—titles, possessions, or achievements. The goal? To prove that we are worthy.

But here’s the catch: doing more doesn’t make you enough. It’s an endless cycle. You can’t hustle your way to self-worth because the feeling of not being enough is never truly satisfied by external validation. Even once you achieve one goal, the sense of inadequacy may still linger. Real confidence doesn’t come from what you do; it comes from who you are.

A Powerful Shift: Own Your Value

What if you could break the cycle? The real secret to overcoming the “not enough” feeling is to own your value—not based on what you’ve done, but simply because you exist.

Here’s the truth: Confidence comes from within. It’s about showing up with a mindset of abundance. When you believe that you are worthy, you stop feeling like you need to prove yourself to others. You begin to approach life with a healthy mindset, knowing that you are enough as you are.

“Your energy is what makes you attractive—not your appearance, not your possessions, but the way you show up in the world.” — Dr. Aziz

When you stop operating from a place of scarcity (like "I’m not good enough"), you become magnetic. You attract people, opportunities, and experiences because your energy exudes self-assurance and worth.

The Power of Feeling Insecure (And Letting It Pass)

One of the most powerful lessons you can learn is to feel your feelings instead of trying to avoid or suppress them. The feeling of “not enough” is simply a temporary emotional experience—it doesn’t define you. When you can create space for that feeling without needing to fix it, you break free from its control.

Imagine a scenario where you feel insecure. Instead of getting caught in a loop of negative self-talk or trying to do more to prove yourself, allow yourself to feel the insecurity. Name it: “This is the feeling of insecurity.” Let it pass through you without clinging to it. Over time, this practice will reduce its power over you and make you more resilient.

“The more you embrace feelings of insecurity, the more you free yourself from their control.” — Dr. Aziz

Final Thoughts: You Are Enough

The next time you feel like you’re not enough, remember: it’s just a feeling, not a reflection of your worth. By practicing self-awareness and embracing your emotions, you can overcome this limiting belief and step into your true confidence.

Take a moment today to remind yourself: You are enough.



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