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Apr 2025
1h 38m

Sleep Training and Attachment

Kirk Honda
About this episode
Dr Kirk Honda explains the fundamentals of sleep training and parenting in general.

This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/KIRK to get 10% off your first month.

00:00 Introduction to sleep training
5:10 Cry-it-out method
09:01 Ferber method
12:34 Fading method
19:38 Am I harming my child?
27:24 Overly permissive training
35:12 Overly harsh training
39:26 "It just happened"
40:08 Attuned sleep training
49:31 Dr. Kirk's fundamentals of sleep training
1:17:40 When can I leave my child overnight? 
1:25:36 How can I avoid causing attachment injury?

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