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Feb 2025
36m 54s

being cool is overrated

sarah pan
About this episode

today we're talking about being "cool" - the pitfalls and distractions that "coolness" creates in our lives. we talk about living in nyc, the death of subculture, and what to prioritize in life. get ready for another friday of putting us on your incognito browser at work, minimizing the window, and listening to the dulcet tones of our voices as you pretend to work on this beautiful day :)


today's specialty drink on the menu: pear soda


(00:00:00) intro

(00:02:04) "trendy" cities

(00:05:21) drink of the day

(00:08:13) episode topic

(00:11:47) does sarah care about coolness?

(00:18:29) are we cool?

(00:22:06) just do what you want

(00:25:57) attractiveness = coolness

(00:27:14) first impressions

(00:29:24) coolness never lasts

(00:32:32) outro

(00:35:49) bloopers

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