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Apr 2
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290: The 3 Boxes Men Put Women In (And H...

MATTHEW HUSSEY
About this episode

In this episode, Matthew, Stephen, and Audrey dive into the “box theory”—the idea that people get placed into one of three boxes when dating: "Want to date," "Just for fun," or "Not interested." But is it really that simple? And can you change boxes over time?

We break down the psychology behind first impressions in dating, whether it's possible to shift from casual to committed, and what really makes someone decide we’re ‘relationship material’.

Topics Covered:
  • What is the “3 Box Theory” of dating

  • Can someone change the box they’re in—or are they stuck?

  • Signs you’re being kept in the “casual” box and how to respond

  • Why first impressions aren’t always final in attraction

  • Emotional connection vs. chemistry: how to tell the difference

  • Dating consistency, standards, and sexual boundaries

  • How to communicate your relationship intentions without fear

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