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Nov 2024
49m 24s

How to Write Irresistible Openers on the...

Connell Barrett
About this episode
Do you struggle to write good openers? Do the women you text tend to ghost you? Help is on the way! In part 3 of this week’s special series on how to get a great girlfriend, your host—dating coach and bestselling author Connell Barrett—teaches you how to write irresistible openers on the apps that women reply to. Then he shares his simple, 4-step texting framework so you’ll always know what to message women, leading to more dates. And you’ll do all of this with authentic charm—no weird pickup tricks needed.


In this episode, dating coach Connell Barrett will discuss:

(4:28) The Real Reason You Struggle on the Dating Apps

(7:27) The 3 Kinds of Openers NOT to Send

(9:01) The 3 Secrets to Writing Openers that Women Love

(10:25) How to Personalize Your Openers to Get Replies

(12:57) The BIG Mistake You’re Making in the Apps

(13:45) Why Women Love, Love, Love Playful Messages

(15:30) How to Write the “Opposites Attract” Opener

(17:58) How to Write the “Compliment + Nickname” Opener

(20:56) How to Write the “Pop Quiz” Opener

(28:00) 3 Tested Copy-Paste Openers that Women Love

(29:58) Connell’s 4-Step Texting Framework to Get You Dates

(32:57) A Breakdown of a Flirty Text Exchange with Suzy

(38:30) Exactly When to Ask Women Out

(40:32) Why Connell’s New “Surprisingly Sexy” Opener Works with ANY Woman

(43:15) Your Dating Mission for this Episode


Are you ready to stop getting ghosted and start getting dates? Listen now!


Quotes

"Learn her interests to tailor your approach; discussing them sparks meaningful conversations." - Connell Barnett

"Master teasing by staying light and avoiding sensitive topics like appearance or intelligence. Keep it fun, not personal." - Connell Barnett


Featured in the episode
Connell Barrett
Founder and Executive Coach of Dating Transformation
Website:https://datingtransformation.com
Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/datingtransformation


FOR A FREE STRATEGY CALL WITH CONNELL TO LEARN HOW TO CONFIDENTLY FLIRT WITH WOMEN BY BEING AUTHENTIC (NO SKETCHY PICKUP MOVES NEEDED):
http://www.datingtransformation.com/contact


TO GET FREE ACCESS TO “THE FLIRTY 30,” 30 CHARMING QUESTIONS TO ASK WOMEN ON DATES, ON THE APPS, AND WHEN YOU APPROACH:
http://www.datingtransformation.com/FLIRTY30
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