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Mar 2025
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The Opinion Wars: Can we really "agree t...

Jake Ernst & Simon Paluck
About this episode

This Isn't Therapy... it's a follow up to last week's episode about the attention wars. In this episode, we explore the concept of "agree to disagree" and how there seems to be a war of opinions playing out in our culture. Is it really possible to find common ground when opinions clash? We discuss strategies for navigating disagreements and the key differences between opinion-based and values-based conflicts. Can we respectfully acknowledge opposing views, or does disagreement signal a deeper divide?

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Original music composed by Kat Burns and performed by KASHKA.

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