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Oct 2024
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1268 || disagree better || hope for cyni...

JULIE MERICA
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"Studies reveal a recipe for disagreeing better:


  1. Good disagreers ask questions instead of making statements.
  2. They work to get underneath people’s opinions to their stories.
  3. When they spot common ground, good disagreers name it.
  4. When they are unsure about something, they say so rather than pretending to be confident.


These ingredients each decrease the chance that dissent will devolve into toxic conflict. But good disagreement is more than nice; it’s powerful. In experiments, people given the recipe you see here listened more intently and asked better questions. But the people they talked with also became more open-minded, even though they received no training. Outrage is contagious, but so are curiosity and humility.” - Jamil Zaki


RESOURCES: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_to_find_hope_when_youre_feeling_cynical

https://www.theguardian.com/books/article/2024/aug/23/hope-for-cynics-by-jamil-zaki-review-beating-the-trust-recession

https://www.pbs.org/newshour/show/in-hope-for-cynics-researcher-explores-how-seeing-the-good-in-others-is-good-for-you


THE BOOK: https://www.jamil-zaki.com/hope-for-cynics


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