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Jul 2024
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The Energy Drain You’re Perpetuating: Hi...

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What if the greatest obstacle to your happiness is your own self-talk? Today we unpack the immense energy drain caused by self-judgment and inner criticism.

Discover how self-judgment insidiously influences every aspect of your life, from mental health issues like anxiety and depression to physical ailments such as weakened immune systems and skin disorders.  Borrowing insights from thought leaders like Louise Hay, we emphasize the power of shifting from self-criticism to self-compassion and navigate the complex landscape of negative self-talk, through reflective questions and personal anecdotes. We'll help you confront your inner critic and recognise the detrimental effects of these negative thoughts on your mental and physical well-being.

We refer to a couple of episodes you might find helpful to listen to:

Episode 5: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2071552/13049042

Episode 106: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2071552/15330813


Here are some of the questions that begin our inner exploration:

How much mental and emotional energy do you waste each day on self-judgment and criticism?

How often do you compare yourself to others, and how does this comparison affect your self-esteem and mood?

What past experiences or messages have contributed to your habit of self-judgment?

When you catch yourself in a moment of self-criticism, how do you usually respond? Do you try to counteract it, or do you accept it as truth?

What impact does your self-judgment have on your mental and physical health?

How do you feel about yourself when you look in the mirror? Are your thoughts kind and supportive, or critical and harsh?

How much time do you spend replaying past mistakes or worrying about future ones?

How might your interactions with others improve if you stopped judging yourself so harshly?

What role does fear play in your self-judgment? Are you afraid of failure, rejection, or something else?

How does your self-judgment affect your ability to pursue your goals and dreams?

In what ways do you sabotage your own happiness and well-being through self-judgment?

Would you ever dare to speak to someone else the way you speak to yourself? If not, why do you tolerate such cruelty within your own mind?

When you think about yourself, what is the first thing that comes to mind? Is it something positive, or do you fixate on your perceived flaws and shortcomings?

If you had to describe your relationship with yourself, would you consider it nurturing and supportive, or would you see it as toxic and damaging?

Learn practical techniques like mindfulness and monitoring self-talk to foster a more nurturing relationship with yourself, and I'll guide you through a profound visualization exercise designed to heal and embrace your younger self with compassion.  We end this episode with a few more questions that I hope will have you answer in a more positive mindset.

Join us on this journey of self-discovery and embrace a more loving and accepting relationship with yourself.

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