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Feb 2025
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[Rebroadcast] Mastering Your Brain’s Pre...

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#236: The pain you experience from negative emotions is your brain’s way of predicting and preparing you for some kind of avoidant behavior. In this episode, we’ll show you how to most directly change your brain’s predictions and thus attain a new mastery over discomfort.


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