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Feb 2025
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Coping Flexibility: The Stoic Art of Pic...

JON BROOKS
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How do you know when to speak up and when to stay silent? When to push forward and when to step back? In this conversation with Donald Robertson, we explore the concept of coping flexibility—the ability to adapt your response based on the situation.

Drawing from Stoicism, cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), and martial arts, we discuss:

📌 Key Topics in This Interview:

- What is coping flexibility, and why does it matter?
- The Stoic skill of picking your battles wisely.
- Epictetus’ lesson: How do you know if you can fight a lion?
- Why even Marcus Aurelius practiced martial arts.
- The role of self-knowledge in decision-making.
- How to build practical wisdom for facing adversity.

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