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Feb 2025
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Clean Freaks, Narcissistic Victims, and ...

Kirk Honda
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Dr Kirk Honda answers patron and member questions.

This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/KIRK to get 10% off your first month.

00:00 How can I be comfortable in a dirty space?
08:15 Is my friend respecting my boundaries?
25:35 Do anxious and avoidant attachment go together? 
32:47 Can narcissists be victims?
39:03 Can therapy help me with loneliness?
44:55 Being the productivity scapegoat 
1:03:43 Bathroom anxiety

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February 14, 2025

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