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Feb 2025
21m 25s

The Biggest Trick You Play On Yourself

Dr. Aziz: Social Anxiety And Confidence Expert, Author and Coach
About this episode

What if the way you see yourself—incapable, unworthy, not enough—isn’t actually real? In this episode, Dr. Aziz exposes the greatest deception holding you back: the false identity you’ve been playing for years.

Discover why you unconsciously cling to this limiting self-perception and how it’s keeping you stuck in fear, self-doubt, and hesitation. More importantly, learn how to break free and start showing up as the confident, bold version of yourself—starting today.

If you’re ready to challenge the biggest lie you’ve been telling yourself and finally step into your power, tune in now!

 

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Have you ever felt like you're not good enough? Maybe it's in your career, in relationships, or even in social situations. That nagging voice in your head tells you you're not attractive enough, not successful enough, not worthy enough. What if I told you that this “not enough” story is a huge lie—and you’re the one telling it to yourself?

In this post, I’ll reveal the biggest deception you’ve been playing on yourself for years, and how to break free from it to create a life where you show up boldly, confidently, and authentically.

The “Not Enough” Trap: A Story You’ve Been Telling Yourself

If you’ve ever felt like you're not enough—whether that’s in terms of attractiveness, success, or social worth—you're not alone. Many of us have an internal narrative that says, “I’m not good enough, and I never will be.” This belief can show up in many areas: “I’m not good enough to be in a relationship,” or “I’ll never be successful, so why bother trying?”

I used to believe this story myself. As a young man, I thought, “I’m unattractive, and no one will want to date me.” I even told myself that I couldn’t possibly be successful because I wasn’t the kind of person who achieved big things. But here’s the secret: That story was never true. It was a character I was playing in my mind, but it wasn’t who I truly was.

“You are convincing yourself that you are small, incapable, and not enough. And the truth is, that story isn’t real.”

Why We Keep Playing Small

The big lie that keeps us stuck is that we need to believe we’re not enough because it feels safe. If we can convince ourselves we’re incapable, then we never have to take the risks that could challenge that belief. We avoid uncertainty and stick to the comfort of our “small self” identity.

This is why many people avoid going after their dreams or speaking up in a room full of people. If you believe you’re not worthy, you won’t try to start that business, ask someone out, or create the content that could change the world. You stay small to protect yourself from failure and rejection.

“The illusion of stability comes from avoiding uncertainty, but it’s not real. It’s only a safe feeling until it isn’t.”

How to Break Free from the “Not Enough” Story

Here’s the truth: The “not enough” story isn’t serving you—it’s keeping you from the life you’re truly capable of living. To change this, you need to stop playing the character of small, incapable you. Instead, ask yourself: What would I do today if I truly believed I was enough?

Let’s say you believe you’re not attractive enough. What would you do if you knew you were attractive and worthy of love? You’d put yourself out there more, right? You’d take more chances, go on dates, make new friends. You’d show up fully as yourself. That’s the power of shifting your belief.

“When you stop believing in the lie of not being enough, you’ll start doing the things that prove you are enough.”

A Call to Action: Start Living the Truth

If you’ve been stuck in the “not enough” story for too long, it’s time to rewrite it. Your action step is simple: Pick one area of your life where you’ve been holding back because you believe you’re not enough. Then, ask yourself, If I truly believed I was enough in this area, what would I do differently today?

Maybe it’s stepping up in a meeting, asking someone out, or starting a project you’ve been putting off. Whatever it is, take that step. The more you do, the more you’ll prove to yourself that the story isn’t true—and the more confident you’ll become.

The truth is, you are enough. And it’s time to start living like it.

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