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Jul 2025
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Feeling Unsupported, Misunderstood, or D...

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About this episode

Has anyone ever doubted something you were excited about?

Have you ever felt judged for trying something different?

Today, Jay opens up about one of the most painful yet common experiences: feeling unsupported, unseen, or misunderstood by the people closest to us. He unpacks the psychology behind why others often don’t believe in us, highlighting the “false consensus effect” and the tendency for others to anchor us to who we used to be. But Jay reminds us this isn’t a flaw in our vision, it’s a sign that we’re ahead of the curve. 

Jay also dives deep into how true confidence is built—not before we begin, but because we begin. He shares why strangers may become your strongest supporters, how to use resistance as a tool for growth, and why failing in public can be a powerful connector. From the competence-confidence loop to the importance of staying grounded in purpose rather than revenge, Jay outlines seven transformational shifts that can help anyone move from self-doubt to self-trust.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to Keep Going When No One Believes in You

How to Stop Seeking Approval

How to Build Confidence Through Action

How to Handle Unsupportive Friends and Family

How to Prove Yourself Right Instead of Proving Others Wrong

No matter where you are in your journey, whether you’re just starting out, stuck in the middle, or feeling like giving up, remember this: you don’t need everyone to believe in you. You just need to believe in yourself enough to take the next step.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:50 #1: Stop Pitching, Start Proving

06:54 #2: Rejection is Often a Protection

11:59 #3: Use Doubt as a Focus Filter

16:33 #4: Strangers are More Likely to Support You

21:15 #5: Create Before You're Confident

25:20 #6: Make Failure Public Strategically

28:08 #7: Focus on Proving Yourself Right

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