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Feb 2025
1h 20m

Orgasm Gap and Unwanted Flaccidity

Kirk Honda
About this episode
Dr Kirk Honda interviews Ewa Lichnowska (www.pleasurematterstherapy.com) about sexuality and sex therapy.

This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/KIRK to get 10% off your first month.

00:00 Introducing Ewa Lichnowska
04:48 Why did Ewa pursue sex therapy?
09:28 What is the orgasm gap?
31:08 The 5 gears of sex
42:50 Compassionate approaches to male sexuality
56:15 Myths about porn
1:17:06 PleasureMattersTherapy.com

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