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Feb 2025
59m 12s

When the Turn On Becomes a Turn Off

Esther Perel Global Media
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Sexual preferences demand a lot of trust, intimacy, and vulnerability in relationships. This week, Esther talks with a couple who are refreshingly open and honest about their fantasies. But after 15 years of marriage, his fetish is no longer her pleasure. Esther helps them uncover the underlying emotional needs driving their fantasies and encourages them to ... Show More
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