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Feb 2025
57m 44s

Ep. #1187: Dr. Robert Waldinger on Happi...

MIKE MATTHEWS
About this episode

What’s the secret to living a long, happy life? How do relationships influence happiness and longevity? How does social connection impact stress and well-being?

In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Robert Waldinger, director of the Harvard Study of Adult Development and author of The Good Life, to explore the powerful role of relationships in health and happiness.

Dr. Waldinger leads the world’s longest-running study on happiness, a ground-breaking project that began in 1938. Drawing from over eight decades of research, Dr. Waldinger offers actionable insights into why relationships are vital and how we can nurture them for a healthier, more fulfilling life.

In this interview, you’ll learn . . .

- Why relationships are the most important predictor of happiness and longevity

- The role of “social fitness” in managing stress and improving well-being

- How to identify and address signs of loneliness in your life

- The secrets to making new friends and deepening existing connections

- How family dynamics shape your ability to build relationships

And more…

So, if you want to understand how relationships can transform your health and happiness, click play and join the conversation.

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Timestamps:

(00:00) Intro

(05:46) Harvard study overview

(08:53) Cultural differences

(10:33) Social fitness

(13:29) Relationships and longevity

(15:24) Signs of poor socializing

(21:54) Quality vs. quantity

(26:44) Deepening connections

(32:57) Childhood's role

(35:19) Parenting mistakes

(38:42) Attention as love

(39:51) Defining high-quality relationships

(44:46) Romantic vs. friendships

(50:41) Signs of successful couples

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Mentioned on the Show:

Triumph

The Little Black Book of Workout Motivation

Pulse

The Good Life: Lessons from the World's Longest Study on Happiness

Robert Waldinger


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