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Jan 2025
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182. Stop Chasing Time and Start Owning ...

Matt Abrahams, Think Fast Talk Smart
About this episode

Clarify your purpose — and stop wasting time.

The new year gives us an opportunity to reflect on who we are and who we want to be. As we set resolutions and prepare for evolutions, this special four-part series on communication, happiness, and well-being explores practical ways to enhance our lives through better communication, deeper connections, and more meaningful choices.

As Cassie Holmes knows, how we spend our time has a big impact on our happiness and well-being. For her, that means focusing on the things not just immediately in front of us, but those that most closely align with our purpose.

"When I say purpose, what I mean is what really drives you," explains Holmes, a professor at UCLA Anderson School of Management and author of Happier Hour: How to Beat Distraction, Expand Your Time, and Focus on What Matters Most. Living a happier and more fulfilled life, she says, rests on using purpose to drive our decisions. “Once you clarify for yourself: what is your purpose? What is your why? Then you can use that as a filter [for] where you should be spending your time.”

In this episode of Think Fast, Talk Smart, Holmes and host Matt Abrahams explore practical strategies for being more purposeful with our time. From email management to relationship building, Holmes shares research-backed approaches for achieving greater happiness through intentional choices.

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Chapters:

  • (00:00) - Introduction
  • (03:31) - Defining Purpose
  • (05:54) - Time Management Strategies
  • (08:26) - Time Tracking for Insight
  • (12:49) - Consolidating Tasks
  • (14:41) - Presence and Happiness
  • (16:44) - The Final Three Questions
  • (21:17) - Conclusion

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