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Jan 2025
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Solo Episode: Sometimes you were meant t...

Anna Kai
About this episode

On this week's solo episode, I'm diving into exposure therapy, how I got over my deep fear of flying, and why I'll always be an aisle seat biddie over a window seat biddie. I overshare about my EDM club days as an NYU college student, what the Avicii documentary can teach us all about why you're not untalented, you're just not in a space that appreciates your talent, and the endless saga to pick a new toilet for our master bathroom.


I answer one of your voicemails on how to feel a sense of belonging when all you've grown up with is the feeling of being othered, and why it's important to go granular versus big picture when we're tackling the biggest challenges in our lives.


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