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Jan 2025
1h 9m

How to Find Good Love After Bad with Lil...

Glennon Doyle and Audacy
About this episode

Today we’re talking about how to build healthy relationships — with ourselves and others — after enduring toxic relationships with both.


1. Signs of emotional toxicity in romantic relationships – and what finally made Lily get out of her unhealthy relationship.

2. How to begin reprogramming your brain after leaving a toxic relationship in order to trust yourself and other people again.

3. The process that caused Lily to become the smallest, quietest version of herself – and how she recovered into her biggest, brightest self.

4. What healthy conflict looks and feels like – and Lily’s new script for communicating when her old triggers arise.


CW: eating disorders, emotionally toxic relationships


About Lily: 

Lily Collins is a Golden Globe nominated actress, author of the international bestselling book “Unfiltered: No Shame, No Regrets Just Me”, and a philanthropist. Collins can currently be seen in the Netflix series “Emily in Paris,” for which she received her second Golden Globe nomination.Lily launched Case Study Films alongside her husband Charlie McDowell. Lily's philanthropic endeavors extend to participating in various “We Day” events and the GO Campaign. Born in West Sussex, England Collins moved to the United States at age six and currently resides in Los Angeles.


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