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Oct 2024
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Conflict Is Normal. Here’s How To Keep I...

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Amanda Ripley is a New York Times bestselling author, a Washington Post contributing columnist, and the co-founder of Good Conflict, a media and training company that helps people reimagine conflict. She has written three award-winning, nonfiction books about three very different subjects: High Conflict, The Smartest Kids in the World, and The Unthinkable. 

In this episode we talk about:

  • The key differences between healthy conflict and high conflict
  • Five key steps for getting out of or avoiding high conflict
  • Why it's a golden age for so-called conflict entrepreneurs; and how to spot them in your orbit
  • ‘Looping’ – a key technique that changed Amanda’s life (and Dan’s)
  • How to set good boundaries while not giving up on people
  • One of the most reliable antidotes to all forms of bias, something called contact theory
  • Thoughts on how to interact with the news and social media during a presidential election
  • The very good reasons to avoid humiliating your opponent. She calls humiliation the nuclear bomb of emotions
  • And much more

Related Episodes:

Fight Right: The Science of Healthy Conflict | Drs. John and Julie Gottman

How to Repair the Damage After a Fight | Dr. Becky Kennedy

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