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Jan 2025
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181. Why Happiness is a Direction, Not a...

Matt Abrahams, Think Fast Talk Smart
About this episode

Why connection is the key to a life well lived.

The new year gives us an opportunity to reflect on who we are and who we want to be. As we set resolutions and prepare for evolutions, this special four-part series on communication, happiness, and well-being explores practical ways to enhance our lives through better communication, deeper connections, and more meaningful choices.

When it comes to happiness, Arthur Brooks says it’s not about reaching a destination — it's about heading in the right direction. And according to him, that direction is fundamentally about relationships.

"Loving more people... more and more love... if you pursue that, you will defy the trends and get happier,” says Brooks, a social scientist, Harvard Business School professor, and author of several books including Build the Life You Want: The Art and Science of Getting Happier, cowritten with Oprah Winfrey. According to him, a happy life is made of enjoyment, satisfaction, and meaning, which we cultivate through connection with others. "Faith, family, friends, and work, that's your basic happiness 401k plan,” he says.

In this episode of Think Fast, Talk Smart, Brooks and host Matt Abrahams explore the fundamental role of relationships in creating a happy life, and how effective communication helps us build and maintain these essential connections.

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Chapters:

  • (00:00) - Introduction
  • (02:27) - Defining Happiness
  • (03:58) - The Macronutrients of Happiness
  • (05:00) - Challenges in Pursuing Happiness
  • (06:27) - Breaking Down Meaning in Life
  • (08:11) - Happiness Across Life Stages
  • (11:16) - Modern Happiness Challenges
  • (14:29) - Mindfulness and Being Present
  • (19:08) - The Final Three Questions
  • (22:54) - Conclusion

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