Why Chasing Confidence Is Killing Your S...

Have you ever felt like no matter how much you achieve, it’s never enough? Maybe you’re constantly chasing the next goal, believing it will finally bring fulfillment—only to end up burnt out, disappointed, and questioning your worth. Sis, it’s not your confidence that’s broken; it’s time to focus on building your self-esteem.

In this episode, we unpack the difference between self-confidence and self-esteem and why chasing confidence alone can leave you feeling empty and fragile. You’ll discover how to shift from relying on external achievements to embracing the intrinsic worth that God has already placed within you.

What you’ll learn:

• The key differences between self-confidence (what you do) and self-esteem (who you are).
• Why relying on achievements for your worth creates a fragile foundation.
• How societal pressures, past traumas, and negative self-talk keep you stuck in a cycle of comparison and burnout.
• How building self-esteem rooted in God’s truth can transform your emotional, mental, and spiritual health.
• Why Psalm 139 holds the key to understanding your value and identity in Christ.

This episode will help you step off the hamster wheel of performance, embrace who God says you are, and start living with deeper peace, purpose, and joy.

Journal Prompt:

After reading Psalm 139 aloud to yourself, reflect:

How does knowing that God sees me completely—my strengths, weaknesses, and hidden fears—shape how I see myself?

Homework:

1. Read Psalm 139 aloud daily this week. Let it remind you of God’s thoughts toward you and His intentional design of your life.
2. Reflect on how your actions and self-talk align with building self-esteem instead of chasing confidence.

Links & Resources:

• Join the First Fruits Challenge: Click Here
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