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Jan 2025
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The Shocking Truth About Dating Red Flag...

Lisa Mustard
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In this episode, I sit down with Dana Nygaard, a licensed professional counselor, speaker, and relationship expert, to uncover the keys to dating with purpose and clarity. Dana shares transformative insights on breaking free from toxic patterns, identifying red flags, and cultivating secure, faith-centered relationships. Drawing from her extensive expertise and personal journey, Dana unpacks the psychological, spiritual, and practical tools needed to navigate dating with confidence. Whether you’re stuck in a cycle of choosing the wrong partners, grappling with attachment issues, or simply seeking a healthier approach to love, this episode is packed with wisdom and actionable advice.

Dana also gives us a behind-the-scenes look at her Be Smart Date Smart program, which blends cognitive-behavioral therapy, attachment theory, and Catholic spirituality to help women build meaningful, lasting relationships.

Key Takeaways:

  1. Learn the Language of Red Flags – How to identify subtle signs of control, manipulation, and emotional unavailability in relationships.

  2. Stop Confusing Intensity with Intimacy – Understand the difference between chaotic relationships and genuine connection, and how real intimacy grows over time.

  3. Date with Clarity, Not Desperation – Discover how to shift your perspective from “Am I good enough for him?” to “Is he good enough for me?” and make decisions rooted in self-worth and faith.

If you’re ready to transform your dating life and build stronger relationships grounded in love and faith, this episode is for you.

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