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Jan 2025
56m 47s

Esther Calling - Are We Just Not Sexuall...

Esther Perel Global Media
About this episode

For the first time in an Esther Calling, Esther speaks to the partner of the caller from last week to hear his perspective on the story. Then, she does a session with the two of them as they detail how they feel stuck in their sexual pattern, where he always initiates, but when he initiates, she freezes. They try to figure out where they can go from here.


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