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Feb 2023
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9. Not for Dating Well

Not For Everyone
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Jess and Caroline are at it again with an episode full of "segments" - starting with a Stranger Danger story from Jess of a recent dermatology appointment that turned into a therapy session. This conversation about unwanted and unboundaried connections with randos turns into a larger breakthrough about our shifting availability for other people as life get busier. Takeaways: This podcast is our baby, and diversified fulfillment has its downsides; namely, finding balance.

Shifting gears, Caroline soft launches her new dating theory that "it doesn't have to be going well," and we insist that no singular moment is the deciding factor in most relationships. Even if it is, bring on the rejection. Especially if it has to do with judgment about music taste or museum appreciation. We're swine, we know.

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Production Credits: Abi Newhouse

Intro Music: “Doja Dance” by PALA

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