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Jan 2025
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The pressure of sex and expectations in ...

PAUL COLAIANNI
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Sometimes emotional and sexual expectations can be challenging to balance in a long-term relationship... but do they have to be? Or is intimacy just difficult with certain people who seem entitled to receive it instead of trying to build it from the ground up?      
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