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Apr 2024
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#395 — Dear Lisa: 'My Sexless Marriage I...

DR. LISA MARIE BOBBY
About this episode

Has the sexual intimacy in your relationship dwindled to almost nothing? Or, do you long to feel desired by your partner, but instead feel like you're being rejected? If so, this episode is for you. You'll learn why sexless marriages (or sexless relationships of any kind) happen, and how to reignite the spark with your partner and cultivate the physical and emotional intimacy you crave. 

When couples stop having sex, it can be a sign that their relationships are suffering in other ways as well. They may be feeling lonely and emotionally disconnected from each other. Often, there's resentment or an old emotional wound that hasn't been healed. Sexuality can be the canary in the coal mine that lets you know your relationship is in trouble.  

It takes courage to explore the root causes of a "dead bedroom." But doing so is the path to rekindling the passion you want and deserve. 

On today's episode, I'm answering a question from a listener who's feeling adrift in his sexless marriage, and offering some universal advice that will help every couple communicate better about sex, understand each other more deeply, and keep the spark alive for the long haul. 

Tune in to learn: 

00:00 The Impact of Dead Bedrooms
04:41 The Importance of Addressing Sexless Marriages
19:23 The Difficulty of Talking About Sexuality
23:34 The Process of Restoring a Healthy Sex Life
30:01 The Meaning and Significance of Sexuality in a Relationship
35:03 Exploring the Complexities of Sexuality
41:19 The Process of Creating Lasting Change in Your Relationship
 
I hope you'll join me! 
 
And, if you'd like to talk with a Growing Self sex therapist about restoring sexual intimacy in your relationship, schedule a free consultation: https://www.growingself.com/schedule-free-consultation/ 
 
xoxo, 
 
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby 
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