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Oct 2024
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101: Chasing Potential And Putting Them ...

The Sabrina Zohar Show
About this episode
Sabrina and Silvy sit down to discuss what can cause the tendency to chase potential in relationships and put partners on pedestals. They offer practical tips for managing these patterns. Silvy, a relationship coach, reflects on her own journey with fearful-avoidant attachment after a long-term relationship, explaining how unresolved childhood trauma led her to project insecurities and set unrealistic standards. She and her husband learned to recognize their vulnerabilities and communicate better, a skill crucial for those in anxious-avoidant dynamics. Sabrina and Silvy emphasize that placing someone on a pedestal, which is linked to attachment wounds, prevents true intimacy by idealizing a partner and avoiding vulnerability. They explain that this behavior can stem from childhood but becomes harmful in adult relationships, blocking authentic connection. To overcome this, look at relationships objectively, understanding your emotional needs, and communicating honestly, ensuring that your attachment style and role in the dynamic align with healthy, balanced intimacy.

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