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Jan 2025
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#884 - Nick Pollard - How To Stop Being ...

Chris Williamson
About this episode

Nick Pollard, “The People Displeaser,” is a coach and a speaker.

Why do we feel so compelled to put others ahead of ourselves? Surely at the very minimum we should be able to prioritise ourselves. Yet it's hard. So, how can you break free from people pleasing tendencies and actually start advocating for your own needs with confidence?

Expect to learn why people pleasing is such a trap, how someone can distinguish between being considerate and sacrificing their own identity to please others, how to rehabilitate yourself from being a people pleaser, why it’s so hard to advocate to your own needs, how to know when you should give up on someone and much more...


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