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Jan 2025
35m 31s

EP 483: The Difference Between Being Sel...

CHRISTINE HASSLER
About this episode

In this insightful episode, Christine coaches Alecks, who is navigating the fine line between self-care and selfishness. Alecks shares her struggles with balancing her own needs and feelings of guilt when caring for her family, particularly her mother. Together, they dive deep into inner child work, exploring how unresolved childhood wounds and patterns of self-abandonment can manifest in adult relationships and personal choices.

Christine guides Alecks to connect with her inner child, offering tools to repair the sense of abandonment and foster a secure attachment within herself. This heartfelt conversation sheds light on how we can honor our own needs while still showing compassion for others, ultimately empowering us to make choices rooted in love rather than guilt.

 

Consider/Ask Yourself:

  • Do you often feel guilty for taking time for yourself or prioritizing your own needs?
  • Are you unclear about the difference between self-care and being selfish?
  • Do you struggle with feelings of abandonment or guilt when dealing with family obligations?
  • Are you ready to strengthen the relationship with your inner child and break old patterns?

 

Key Insights and A-HAs:

  • Inner child work is an ongoing process that fosters healing and connection.
  • Guilt often stems from unresolved childhood patterns of self-silencing and overcompensation.
  • True self-care involves choosing from a place of love, not guilt or obligation.
  • Repairing the relationship with your inner child can reduce feelings of abandonment and foster inner peace.

 

How to Get Over It & On With It:

  • Check in with your inner child regularly to understand their needs and feelings.
  • Practice secure attachment techniques, such as clear communication and creating agreements.
  • Reflect on where you might be operating out of guilt or obligation instead of authentic care.
  • Take actionable steps to balance family responsibilities with your own well-being.

 

Special Invitation: March 2025 Retreat – From Wounds to Wisdom
Join Christine Hassler and Stefanos Sifandos for a life-changing retreat, From Wounds to Wisdom, taking place at the Art of Living Retreat Center from March 28–30, 2025. This immersive experience is designed to help you transform pain into power, gain clarity on your purpose, and step into your highest potential. Reserve your spot now! Click here!

 

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