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Dec 2024
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How To Be Less Judgmental (Of Other Peop...

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Can mindfulness really pull you out of a spiral of self-judgment? Don’t you need to be judgmental sometimes? What’s the difference between being discerning and judgmental?

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Meditation and mindfulness doesn’t uproot your capacity to be judgmental, but it can help you see the value in being judgmental by learning how to work with the judging mind. 

La Sarmiento has been practicing Vipassana meditation since 1998. La is a mentor for the Mindfulness Meditation Teacher Certification Program, a teacher with Cloud Sangha, and a contributor to the Happier Meditation app.

In this episode we talk about:

  • How mindfulness can help us identify when we’re being judgmental
  • The difference between discernment and judgment
  • How it can be so delicious to be judgmental of others – but why it’s actually harmful to ourselves and others
  • The four questions to ask when we notice ourselves going into judgment mode 
  • How to operationalize the phrase “am I suffering right now?” 
  • Investigating the motivations behind striving for success 
  • Why owning up to being a jerk is sometimes the exact right answer

Full Shownotes: www.meditatehappier.com/podcast/tph/la-sarmiento-rerun-2024

Where to find La Sarmiento online: 

Website: www.lasarmiento.com

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Download the Happier Meditation app today.

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