Today, John explores the concept of closure, challenging the traditional view that it is a definitive end. He emphasizes the importance of acceptance over resolution, self-generated closure, the messy, non-linear nature of healing, and provides actionable steps to take.
You can pre-order John's new book, Break Up. On Purpose, HERE
Jump into John’s new Singl ... Show More
Today
Sh*t You Wouldn’t Ask Your Therapist | Heartbreak Hurts Here's Why
In today’s episode, John Kim takes on your raw, unfiltered questions about love — from the heartbreak of seeing an ex with someone new, to the chaos of dating in your 40s, to navigating loneliness, trauma, and self-worth. It’s the real talk you’ve been craving: messy, honest, and ... Show More
23m 11s
Yesterday
When You Shut the Door on Miracles
What if it’s not the big traumas that hold us back, but the tiny cracks in how we think each day? In this episode, John Kim and Vanessa unpack how we unconsciously block miracles - through catastrophizing, over-stimulation, and self-protection - and how small shifts in mindset ca ... Show More
20m 34s
Aug 25
Still Stuck on Your Ex | This is Why
Closure isn’t a door you wait to have slammed shut - it’s a bridge you build. In this episode, licensed therapist John Kim breaks the biggest “closure” myths and shows you how to move forward without an apology, a perfect explanation, or one last text. If you’ve felt stuck in rel ... Show More
15m 49s
Aug 4
Ep. 301 - How do I get closure from my ex?
You keep waiting for your ex to give you the closure you need, an explanation, an apology, some sign that what you had mattered to them. In this episode, I'm revealing the twisted psychology behind why begging for closure actually pushes your ex further away, and the counterintui ... Show More
13m 16s
Oct 2024
Male Sexuality, Leaving Your Marriage, and Gen Z
Today, John and Shaun talk about fear, negative feedback from listeners, asking for what you need, and male body and bedroom insecurities. They also answer and give advice on two listeners' questions: how do you get the courage to leave a marriage, and how do you deal with jealou ... Show More
1h 8m
Aug 2024
The Orgasm Gap, Anger Management, and Should We Break Up?
Today, John and Shaun talk about their recent retreat experiences, celebrity man crushes, and their first blowjobs. They also answer and give advice on two listeners' questions: Is it a woman's responsibility to ask the man she's dating to go down on her, and how do I ... Show More
1h 13m
Apr 2025
A Meditation for Clarifying Your Motivations for Using Tech
Recent studies have confirmed that the constant presence and use of tech in our lives have become a hazard to our well-being on multiple levels. Meditation teacher, mindful tech designer, and self-identified tech lover Jay Vidyarthi observes, “It’s okay to enjoy technology. Tech ... Show More
12m 25s
Jun 2024
S2 Ep12 - Closing with Completion
In our fast-paced lives, it’s easy to finish one project and quickly move on to the next, often leaving behind a trail of unresolved feelings and incomplete experiences. This common approach can hinder our personal and professional growth, leading to a cycle of ongoing dissatisfa ... Show More
25m 42s
Mar 2025
CLOSURE IS NOT NEEDED TO MOVE ON - How to Let Go & Find Peace Without Closure | Mafe's Sessions #6
Closure is something we’ve been taught to seek after a relationship ends, a friendship falls apart, or a situation doesn’t go as planned. We wait for an apology, an explanation, or a final conversation to give us the “permission” to move on. But what if closure isn’t actually nec ... Show More
13m 40s