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Dec 2024
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Tricky Questions About Grief: Is There A...

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A famed author and humorist takes a deep dive into grief (with Dr. Bianca Harris as co-host).

Sloane Crosley is the author of The New York Times bestselling books Grief Is for People, How Did You Get This Number, and I Was Told There’d Be Cake. She is also the author of Look Alive Out There, Cult Classic and The Clasp, both of which have been optioned for film. She served as editor of The Best American Travel Writing series and is featured in The Library of America's 50 Funniest American Writers, The Best American Nonrequired Reading, Phillip Lopate’s The Contemporary American Essay and others. She was the inaugural columnist for The New York Times Op-Ed "Townies" series, a contributing editor at Interview Magazine, and a columnist for The Village Voice, Vanity Fair, The Independent, Black Book, Departures and The New York Observer. She is a contributing editor at Vanity Fair. She has taught at Columbia University and The Yale Writers’ Workshop.

In this episode we talk about:

  • A series of consecutive losses that Sloane endured
  • The concept of cumulative grief 
  • Sloane’s version of the five stages of grief
  • Her beef with acceptance
  • Bibliotherapy as a source of healing
  • And much more

Related Episodes:

The Science Of Grief: What Helps, What Doesn’t, And Why We Don’t Talk About It Enough | Cody Delistraty

How To Talk To Yourself When Things Suck | Sam Sanders

#450. The Science of Loss and Recovery | Mary-Frances O’Connor

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