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Dec 2024
14m 8s

What to Say to a One-Upper

Civility Media
About this episode

You’re excited to share something you’re proud of, and then someone jumps in with, “Oh, that’s nothing—I’ve done [insert bigger, better thing here].”

It’s like they can’t help but make it a competition. Every win you share becomes their chance to one-up you.

At first, it’s just annoying. But over time, it starts to wear on you.

In this episode, I’m sharing 3 simple strategies to deal with one-uppers.

You’ll learn how to protect your peace, set boundaries, and stop letting these moments steal your joy.

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