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Nov 2024
1h 6m

The power of not belonging with Ava Lee

Anna Kai
About this episode

What’s it like to feel like an outsider your entire life? On this week’s episode, we sit down with beauty and skincare influencer, Ava Lee, on life before going viral for her “jelloskin” tips and the power of reinventing yourself. Ava dishes on growing up in Shanghai and her first time in America as a college student at Notre Dame. We unpack the nuances of the Asian-American experience, assimilation, and how sometimes, we have to be who we are not in order to discover who we are.


Ava and I detail our early days in social media and how we got over the cringe of being “that girl who thinks she’s an influencer”, how serving sizes are a uniquely American concept, and how she healed herself by going back to her eastern gastronomic roots. For all the biddies who believe in second chances, tune in to find out why it was not love at first sight for Ava and her husband Ben, and who her favorite ex was.


Follow Ava @glowwithava @byava

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