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Nov 2024
50m 33s

#227: The Messiness of Human-ness with C...

Mary Jelkovsky
About this episode

This was supposed to be a well-thought-out, polished interview with artist and author Carissa Potter, better known as @peopleiveloved on Instagram. Instead, this turned out to be a vulnerable conversation about parents, religion, narcissism, and overall, our human-ness.

Our guest today, or perhaps more accurately our co-host Carissa has over 800,000 followers on social media but the first sentence on her website says that “Carissa Potter is a human longing for connection.” She writes books, makes art & public commissions, and hosts the series Bad At Keeping Secrets (one of Substack’s featured newsletter of 2022) where she talks to other humans doing really interesting things. Carissa is the founder of People I’ve Loved, her platform and stationary line that bridges the gaps between people by helping them have authentic and sometimes difficult conversations. She was named one of Cosmopolitan’s 24 People (Genuinely) Making the World a Better Place and I couldn’t agree more.

This is an extraordinarily raw and real conversation about...

  • why Carissa wishes she had kids earlier in life
  • the nuances of both of our religious beliefs
  • what Mary’s father is like
  • how being chronically late might be a sign of intimacy issues

Remember: humans are complex creatures but at our core, all we want is connection with other humans.

Follow Carissa on Instagram: @peopleiveloved
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Mentioned In This Episode...
Narcissistic Abuse: https://www.stopthespincycle.com/narcissistic-abuse

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