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Nov 2024
47m 33s

S19E13: The Validation Trap

Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick
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There's so much pressure when dating....so much that dating becomes more about measuring up than actually finding the right partner. We're diving into one of the biggest things that got in our way – and that we see stifle so many of you too – when we let dating define our worth and make it a lot more personal than it actually is. We're discussing the mindset ... Show More
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