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Nov 2024
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Redefining Your Perspective on Needs Wit...

Jessica Da Silva, LMFT
About this episode

Today on the podcast we have Chris Rackliffe, also known as @crackliffe. He is a trauma healer, mental health advocate, anxious attachment style coach, and author of the new self-help book, Needy No More: The Journey From Anxious to Secure Attachment—available exclusively on Amazon beginning November 19, 2024. Chris has worked with countless clients across five continents to help them heal their anxious attachment style and grow more secure, sharing everything he’s learned on his own healing journey—from how to integrate trauma and regulate the nervous system, to how to effectively communicate and set boundaries. With a B.S. in Psychology from the University of Miami—and an honorary Ph.D. in the “School of Life”—Chris has made it his sole purpose to help others find peace, perspective, purpose, and power through their trauma.


We discuss:

-Why it's important to know your needs for relationship health and satisfaction.

-How to identify and meet your needs.

-How to measure if your needs are being met within your relationship.

-Creating a balanced approach of give and take.

-When to stay or leave your relationship.


Contact and work with Chris:

Check his my website and TikTok!

Get your copy of his first book, It's Good to See Me Again, on Amazon now.


Contact and work with Jessica:

10 Week Attachment Coaching

Instagram: @thejessicadasilva

hello@jessicadasilvacoaching.com

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