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Apr 2025
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196. how to stop being low maintenance i...

Elicia Goguen
About this episode
Hi my loves 🦋 In today's episode, we are diving deep into no longer being "low maintenance" in relationships by first looking at WHY we accept the bare minimum, situationships and relationships that do not serve us and mindset shifts, journal prompts and reminders to finally get out of your patterns. I hope you resonate 🤍

Today's Journal Prompts:
1. What have I accepted and negotiated in my past relationships that do not align to what I truly want in a relationship and what do I want in a relationship? 
2. What is the way that I tend to shut down when it comes to seeing that my relationship needs are not being met?
EXTRA PROMPTS
3. What’s one daily habit that I could practice that will help me get closer to becoming the version of me who has strong boundaries? E.x letting myself have a second to respond to a request before saying yes or prioritizing a certain set of personal life goals before spending excessive amount of time in my relationship)
4. What qualities would I love to see in a person when it comes to conflict and how they respond when I’m bringing up that my needs in a relationship aren't being met?
5. What is a reminder that I can tell myself in the times that I am too afraid to walk away? (example- letting go of something that is not 100% for me, allows me to get closer to what is 100% for me)

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Timestamps:
00:00 intro
01:05 how to stop being low maintenance in relationships
03:52 gaslighting yourself
06:47 the cycle you keep playing out
14:14 grant yourself MORE
18:25 get clear on your needs and wants
22:25 communication
32:49 healthy love
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