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Nov 2024
1h 19m

What Happens When an Avoidant Man Falls ...

Adam Lane Smith & Sarah Dawn Moore
About this episode

🎙️ In this revealing episode of "I Wish You Knew," Adam Lane Smith, the attachment specialist, reconnects with a returning guest with an avoidant attachment style. This time, he opens up about his relationship.

 

Adam and his client dive deep into the intense struggles avoidant men face when it comes to trust, vulnerability, and building genuine connections. Kimmi shares the breakthrough moments that led him to realize he isn’t a “bad person” for being guarded, and how opening up has become both a terrifying and rewarding journey.

 

This isn’t just another talk about attachment—it’s an honest look at how fear, trust, and co-regulation play into love and relationships. 

 

✨ Moments You Can’t Miss ✨:

👉 Why opening up feels like losing control for avoidant men.

👉 The moment an avoidant man realizes he might actually want a committed relationship.

👉 Why avoidants test their partners, and how it sabotages true connection.

👉 How co-regulation with a supportive partner can help an avoidant man let down his guard.

👉 What it takes for an avoidant man to finally feel safe, secure, and supported.

👉 Why avoidants keep relationships at arm’s length, and what finally made Kimmi reconsider.

👉 The unexpected relief (and fear) that comes with trusting someone fully.

 

Tune in to gain insights into the internal experiences of avoidant men and learn actionable steps to cultivate deeper emotional intimacy. 🎧



If you enjoyed this episode, you will probably love our previous episode where Adam helps Kimmi face his trust issues in a LIVE coaching session: 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xfPgVg08E-E&ab_channel=IWishYouKnewPodcast 

 

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The next episode drops Thursday :)

See you there. 




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