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Nov 2024
57m 54s

271: Why It’s Actually Good to “Settle” ...

MATTHEW HUSSEY
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Today it's my pleasure to sit down with the excellent Oliver Burkeman (@oliverburkeman), author of the new book "Meditation for Mortals", which I've found myself recommending to all my friends and family as his work has hugely influential on me in recent years. We sit down to discuss: - Why "settling" in relationships is necessary - How to find your Life Task - How to get over perfectionism - The power of intuition vs. reason - Being more present in your life + acceptance - Giving up on the illusion of "arriving" - How to get through difficult things, anxiety, and deal with your flaws And more! ►► Grab a copy of Oliver's wonderful new book Meditation for Mortals ►► Ask Matthew AI Your Biggest Dating Question for Free Now at. . . → http://www.AskMH.com ►► FREE Video Training: “Dating With Results” → http://www.DatingWithResults.com

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