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Nov 2024
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The Illusion of Control: How OCD Keeps Y...

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Welcome to episode 441 of The OCD and Anxiety Podcast with Robert James Coaching. In this episode, we delve into one of OCD's most compelling tricks—the illusion of control. For those struggling with OCD, the cycle of compulsions often offers a deceptive sense of relief. However, this short-term fix only keeps you trapped in the cycle.

Discover why focusing on long-term resilience rather than short-term comfort is essential for breaking free from OCD's grip. Learn about the concept of the "choice point" from Acceptance Commitment Therapy and how choosing courage over comfort can lead to true freedom. Robert shares personal insights and introduces two powerful techniques: postponement and values check-in, designed to help you build resilience and align your actions with your values.

Join us as we explore how to make choices that reflect who you want to be, ultimately reclaiming your freedom from OCD. For more tools and strategies, visit Robert's YouTube channel and website. Embrace the journey towards a life defined by your values, not your fears.

Disclaimer:

Robert James Pizey (of Robert James Coaching) is not a medical professional and is also not providing therapy or medical treatment. Robert James Pizey recommends that anyone experiencing anxiety or OCD to seek professional medical help straight away to get a medical opinion and rule out other conditions or illnesses. The comments and opinions as written on this site are simply that and are not to be taken as professional medical opinions. Robert James Pizey provides coaching, education, accountability and peer support around Anxiety through his own personal experiences.

 

 

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