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Nov 2024
55m 51s

Finding Love Would Mean Letting Go of Wh...

Esther Perel Global Media
About this episode

He's been searching for someone for so long that he questions if he's actually looking for a unicorn. He wants someone who holds the same religious values as he does. As is often the case with Esther, the conversation that unfolds breaks down what's really underneath his seemingly high demands. This episode contains references to sexual abuse, please take care while listening.


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