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Oct 2024
1h 19m

Why you’re attracting all the wrong men ...

Anna Kai
About this episode

We’re kicking things off with Violet Benson, host of the podcast Almost Adulting and the brain behind the viral Instagram account @daddyissues_.


Keywords: dating, society, culture, relationships, love lessons, dating advice, toxic relationships, overcoming failure, single at the holidays, date yourself, being behind, love and money


On this episode, we dive into how Violet managed to break the intergenerational trauma of her upbringing, why she thinks you keep attracting all the wrong men (aka Chads), and whether she really believes that you can meet the right person at the wrong time.


Violet dives into her childhood as the daughter of Russian immigrants, the first boy that ever broke her heart, and the active practice of letting go of who you were so you can become who you’re meant to be.


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