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Oct 2024
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241. Are we our own worst critic?

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Sometimes the loudest critic, our biggest hater is not someone we know, it is ourselves. We are the ones who are the first to judge ourselves, to shut ourselves and our ambitions down, to say the nastiest things. In today's episode we break down why we are our own worst critic, including: 

  • How we learn self criticism in childhood
  • The evolutionary component to criticism 
  • The role of the super ego 
  • The role of comparison 
  • Why no one is really looking at your that closely 
  • How to embrace radical self compassion and acceptance
  • How to use cognitive diffusion, and much more 

This episode is a rerun whilst Jemma is recovering from an illness. We will be back on Friday with a brand new episode. 

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