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Oct 2024
55 m

You're Inching Me Out

Esther Perel Global Media
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This is a classic session, from the first season of How's Work? They were mates in university before co-founding a successful communications company. They still work together from different coasts, but they barely speak. One wants to move on; the other is grasping for his former friend. Neither can find the words to talk about it.


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