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Sep 2024
46m 57s

How to Be a Great Friend, Para-Social Re...

MARK MANSON
About this episode

The quality of your life often comes down to the quality of the relationships you have. That’s why we’re giving a huge f*ck about friendship this week.

While the benefits of having good friends are pretty obvious, the cost of maintaining friendships is often overlooked by a lot of people. We dive into that, plus some advice on when you should and shouldn’t cut off people in your life, and how friends and romantic partners really impact our happiness.

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Here’s the paper we discuss:People perceive parasocial relationships to be effective at fulfilling emotional needs

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Theme Music: "Icarus Lives" byPeriphery

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