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Sep 2024
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#838 - Dr Paul Eastwick - What Do People...

Chris Williamson
About this episode

Dr Paul Eastwick is a psychologist, professor, and a researcher.

What do people actually want in a partner compared to what they say they want? Paul is the lead author on largest study of its kind which was just released breaking down exactly this question.

Expect to learn the #1 trait people actually look for in a partner, how well people know what they want, what Ideal Partner Preference-Matching is, the biases that affect mate evaluation, the sex differences in stated vs. revealed preferences, whether big data could improve dating app matching and much more…

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