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Sep 2024
49m 16s

Why Is Dating So Hard These Days? Uncut ...

BRITTANY HOCKLEY AND LAURA BYRNE
About this episode

Jeff Guenther AKA TherapyJeff is here to help you take control of your dating life, by tuning into who you are, what you want, and how you can get there. Therapy Jeff has over 3.8 million followers on socials. He is a licensed therapist with twenty years’ experience in private practice. Today we are going to unpack a bit of the psychology behind why we are the way that we are in relationships and how that impacts different aspects of our dating lives!

Today we chat about:

  • Growing up with a mum who is also a therapist. Is that good or bad?
  • Can we blame our parents for who we are attracted to?
  • Why is dating so hard right now?
  • If you’re on dating apps, you could be dating an AI avatar of the person
  • When we ARE the problem and how to take control of that
  • Patterns: are you after chaos and drama or a healthy stable relationship? No, but really what are you actually searching for?
  • How much can you change someone to help them meet your needs?
  • How to spot the difference between love bombing and the honeymoon phase
  • Can you survive cheating? What determines whether you can or can’t

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