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Aug 2024
25m 26s

412: Abandonment by Husband & Addicted t...

Robert Duff, Ph.D.
About this episode

In this episode of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast, I address two intense and relatable listener questions.

The first question comes from a listener who feels abandoned by their spouse after a traumatic car accident left them with PTSD and potential brain injury. I provide insights on the possible brain injuries they might have sustained, while also discussing the complexities of their strained relationship and offering practical advice for moving forward.

In the second question, a listener struggles with constant phone checking and tech addiction. I offer actionable tips for managing phone usage, including identifying and challenging assumptions, creating a conscious phone use plan, and finding accountability.

This episode aims to provide support, clarity, and practical guidance for listeners dealing with trauma, relationship challenges, and tech overdependence.

This episode is brought to you by NoCD. Overthinking can be more than just a habit—it might be a symptom of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). NoCD provides virtual therapy sessions with licensed therapists specialized in Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP) therapy, the gold standard treatment for OCD. To learn more, visit http://nocd.com and schedule a free 15-minute call.

00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview 
01:16 Listener's Question: Dealing with Trauma and Relationship Issues
02:33 Understanding Brain Injuries from Car Accidents
08:05 Addressing Relationship Concerns and Seeking Separation
08:11 Sponsor Break: NoCD
15:14 Listener's Question: Overcoming Phone Addiction
17:07 Tips for Reducing Phone Usage
25:17 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

Please send questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com 

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